Parenting the Child with ADHD
Parenting a child with ADHD is a partnership where both parent and child aim for the child’s eventual independence. However, this journey can feel like a battle for control, as children with ADHD often struggle with memory, organization, and impulsiveness. Here’s how to nurture that partnership effectively:
1. Put the Brakes On: Teach your child to stop when asked by using clear cues. Use a simple hand signal or verbal command like “Look at me” or “Quiet now,” paired with an attention-grabbing sound like a clap or buzzer.
2. Keep Instructions Simple: Give clear, concise instructions and have your child repeat them. For example, for homework: “Write it down, bring it home, and put it on your desk.” Repeat variations of these reminders throughout the day to reinforce the task.
3. Create Organizational Systems Together: ADHD kids forget things easily. Set up a consistent system they can rely on:
o Place a box by the front door for school essentials.
o Use morning and afternoon checklists for items like homework, books, and lunch boxes.
o Use favorite devices (like a Game Boy) as strategic spots for reminders.
4. Use Timed Reminders: Set alarms for transitions between activities. Use gentle prompts from parents and teachers to guide your child to the next task without disrupting their focus.
5. Daily Room Organization: Encourage a daily room tidy-up with a set time and a reward afterward. ADHD kids can get overwhelmed by clutter, so regular, small clean-ups help maintain a manageable space.
6. Embrace Your Child’s Creativity: Enjoy and celebrate your child’s unique perspective and creativity. With your support, they’ll grow into an imaginative and original adult.
7. And consider neurofeedback intervention: Neurofeedback, a gentle, noninvasive, and fun treatment which improves focus and memory while keeping your child’s creativity.
With patience and structured support, you can help your child navigate their challenges and build the skills needed for a successful and independent future.
Peggy